Bonus pet

I have a pet cat. Well, she’s sort of my cat. She lives outside, and I feed her. I also got her spayed, which is a bit of an intimate thing to do to a cat that doesn’t belong to me…so I suppose she’s mine. Her name is Jenny. Genevieve, but we call her Jenny.

She showed up in the garage last winter with two wee kittens tucked into our bike trailer, and I liked her because she was such a dedicated mother.  We found other homes for the kittens and got Jenny’s “baby bed taken out” (as I explained it to the kids), and Jenny hung around.  Cat food doesn’t cost that much, and she’s independent of my care in every other way.

It was a summer evening the first time we heard the metal food bowl getting shuffled around the concrete patio after dark.  We got ourselves a bonus pet.

I don’t know if the hedgehog is a he or a she, nor does it have a name (yet–any ideas?). But if the food bowl is left on the ground it’s a regular visitor. I like it. Like Jenny, it’s independent and low maintenance. “Independent, low maintenance, AND prickly….just like you!” my parents cackled over skype. Yeah, maybe. I like skunks too….

The days of our lives

Our lives consist 99% of ordinary stuff, the unexciting tasks of mundane life.  Occasionally there’s enough humor in an exchange to prompt a giggle, a tiny tidbit of normality that’s worth celebrating.  Below is a random collection of a few recent ones.

“Mom, can you cut my nails? It hurts when I put my finger in my nose.”
The request comes from the back of the car on our way home from preschool. I guess she’s been doing some nose excavations while at school….

Jeremiah and I were brewing a batch of beer Saturday morning when the kids came out asking for lunch. “Right, I’ll get you a sandwich in a minute,” I promised, as I checked the pH of the cooling wort. I must have said “just a minute” a few times before they disappeared, prancing back with fully laden plates, pleased as punch with their independence (and their chocolate cookies).

Here’s one of the many forts Milo’s building these days. Hurray for removable couch cushions–they’re the main structural element for most of the creations. “You know, when I was your age, I used to LOVE building forts too,” I told Milo. “Were you good at it?” he wanted to know. “Yes, I was good at it.” I don’t objectively remember how good at it I was, of course, but that’s besides the point. Milo seems to think that daddy’s good at building things and mommy’s not, an unfair judgement which I’m doing my best to shift.

It’s the fate of the second born, to be always one step behind the older sibling in doing new stuff.  The advantage (though she doesn’t know it yet) is that nothing is REALLY new.  She’ll have been going to this massive classroom filled with 70 rapidly moving red bodies for two years before it’s her turn to don the uniform.  

Why did the pre-schooler cross the road?

Attention Milo’s mum, your pre-schooler is at the school crossing.”  The loudspeaker cut through a bike repair conversation with a New Entrant teacher.

“Oh, that’s me!” I exclaimed guiltily, rudely ending the chat about bent sprockets and setting off at a trot towards the school gate.

To tell the truth, I was too busy talking to even hear the announcement—the other New Entrant teacher had to repeat the message.

I peeked over the fence and saw Naomi standing with the principal on the OTHER side of the road crossing.  Highway 76.  Whoops, Parenting Blunder 101.

“Thanks, Mr. Topham!” I said, as I took Naomi by the shoulder and pulled her aside.  “Remember, you can NOT leave the school gates without Mommy,” I reminded her, strategically loud enough for the principal to hear.  To tell the truth, I’m not sure I had ever thought to tell her that before.  I had been lackadaisically searching for her though the year 1 and year zero classrooms before the announcement, realizing that she had done a runner but thinking she was probably playing with some cool toy in a nook somewhere.  Or maybe out waiting at the school crossing, since my subconscious realized that she was bold enough to do that, but every other time that she has beaten me to the crossing she has waited on the school side….

Mr. Topham (the principal) was gracious, but goodness knows what he was actually thinking.  These American parents, don’t they teach their kids road safety?”  or perhaps “These mothers spend so much time jabbering that they don’t even keep an eye on their kids.” 

I have, however, been working on bike safety on the way to the library. Do I earn bonus points for that?

Naomi’s latest social development is play dates–both hosting and being invited. They’re entirely more peaceful affairs than Milo’s play dates; no wrestling, no racing. The biggest controversy is over who wears the pink dress-up. I left Naomi at her friends’ house for two hours one afternoon, while I worked cozily on the computer and sipped a coffee. I used to have interludes of quiet like that EVERY DAY while Milo napped. It really is true that you don’t know how good something is until you lose it.

Every night Naomi tucks Nina and Scarlett into the safe wall-half of her bed, while she sleeps precariously on the outer half. Strangely Milo, who has never been very affectionate to his stuffed animals, has started to copy her.

Gardening is a patience-testing activity for a child. Just a week after Milo planted his lovingly-watered carrot transplant he was asking if it was ready to pick. Thankfully, he soon forgot about its existence until this week, and it really WAS ready to pick. There’s a very proud gardener.

A breath of high(ish) air

Look at that autumn outlook over the port hills! It was a golden sunny day, not too hot nor too cold, and without wind. The bike tracks up to Summit Rd from Halswell Quarry are still closed after the big fire, so Sunday I drove around the base of the hills to access an open track further east. I haven’t explored the tracks over near Rapaki Rd much (I’m adverse to driving in order to exercise) so I’m exploring most of these for the first time. This time I tried going east from the summit. I’m not a “black diamond” mountain biker, so not too far along this particular track I gave up hefting my bike over the rocks, instead climbing straight up through the dry grassy seed heads to the summit of this little peak. There’s something about getting to a high outlook that’s super satisfying.

Turning the other direction, you get a king’s view over the city. “That’s right,” you think to yourself, “all those people down there are breathing the smog, going about their daily lives, and I’m up here above it all!” Until I ride back down, of course, and resume my own daily life like everyone else. It’s a refreshing interlude nonetheless.

Guess this plant

What are these, can you guess? I can’t decide whether it’s an obvious question or a good puzzler.

Hint: they’re growing on a vine on our back porch.  They’re grown en masse in NW USA with cultured variety names like Centennial, Simcoe, Amarillo, Chinook…. English varieties have blunt names like Fuggles and Nugget.  We’re growing oodles of them at Zealandia for a customer in Nelson, NZ.  

Up close view–you got it?
Hops. For beer. Yum.
Actually, I just did a tea out of them to see what they really taste like minus all the malt, and they’re BITTER. That’s the point, I guess. They do smell nice at any rate!
And now, after spending 30 minutes harvesting one plant, I spent the next 30 minutes watching you-tube videos of hop harvest machinery. Mechanization, it’s a wonderful thing.

English is cruel

Milo wrote a sign for his bedroom door. See if you can interpret it. I needed help….

Translation:

“Nobody is allowed in Milo’s bedroom, only Milo’s friends what includes Mom and Naomi”

It reads like those word puzzles my mom used to love: “C D B? E S CN me.” = See the bee?  He is seeing me.”

This one has the translation written beside it. Notice that the same words are spelled differently than they were on the last sign.  Crikey.  The poor boy. He didn’t get any good spelling genes from me.

The problem is with the English language.  Probably I’m just making excuses because I’m not a good speller either, but the deck does seem stacked against these poor English learners.  “Allowed” does sound like “a lad,” and “Include” does sound like “a clud.”  “Bejrum” is phonetically how we say bedroom.  I sometimes try to help him sound out a word while he’s reading, but really, logic doesn’t work so well when it comes to the patchwork language we call English.

 

Cycling the St James

Every summer I do a tramp with my friend Laura in Nelson–I fly up after work on a Friday, she picks me up at the airport, and we hike a mountain somewhere in the Kahurangi National Park.  We’ve been to some spectacular places (Mt Owen’s peculiar limestone formations are probably my favorite so far).  But this year, with these darn back troubles, I haven’t been hiking….  But I HAVE been biking!  So this year we decided to met in Hanmer Springs and bike the St. James Cycleway.

DOC's map shows the cycleway, 64 kilometers of mountain biking through the sweeping Waiau river valley.  We concluded that the difficulty of the ride was exaggerated somewhat in the description--DOC must feel responsible keep inexperienced bikers from getting in over their heads.

DOC’s map shows the cycleway, 64 kilometers of mountain biking through the sweeping Waiau river valley. We concluded that the difficulty of the ride was exaggerated somewhat in the description–DOC must feel responsible keep inexperienced bikers from getting in over their heads.  Though there are huts along the way, we don’t have our bikes set up with saddle bags so we decided to do the ride in one day, and stay at a backpacker (a.k.a. hostel) in Hanmer the nights before and after.  

The track starts with a climb up a four-wheel-drive road to Maling pass.  The forecast had been for showers, clearing during the morning, so we rugged up and brought our hats and puffies and changes of clothes in our backpacks....but the day turned out fine.  "Blue skies and never a cloud, the sun dancing on the water."

The track starts with a climb up a four-wheel-drive road to Maling pass. The forecast had been for showers, clearing during the morning, so we rugged up and brought our hats and puffies and changes of clothes in our backpacks….but the day turned out fine. “Blue skies and never a cloud, the sun dancing on the water.”

Morning tea spot!  I had thought we'd be huddling in a hut sheltering from drizzle for our stops, so the sun was certainly a pleasant surprise.

Morning tea spot! I had thought we’d be huddling in a hut sheltering from drizzle for our stops, so the sun was certainly a pleasant surprise.  The bumblebees were a surprise too–they were nearly aggressive, certain that my blue helmet and Laura’s purple shirt must hold giant stockpiles of sweet nectar, like two massive borage flowers.  We moved from ignoring them to “wafting” them gently with our hands to skipping away amid frantically waving arms, and eventually took to our bikes again.  

Grassy river flat biking is fast!

Grassy river flat biking is fast!

There's a 100k cycle race that uses this track each year, but those bikers have to cross the Waiau river and go up the side valleys a couple times.  Laura was tempted to try it....I not so much.

There’s a 100k cycle race that uses this track each year, but those bikers have to cross the Waiau river and go up the side valleys a couple times. Laura was tempted to try it….I not so much.

I like crossing rivers on bridges, and thankfully the two times the trail crossed the sizeable Waiau, there were beautiful swing bridges, complete with steep descents and accents on either side.

I like crossing rivers on bridges, and thankfully the two times the trail crossed the sizeable Waiau, there were beautiful swing bridges, complete with steep descents and accents on either side.

Standard bridge crossing warning....looking at the drop below I was inclined to be obedient and not put the bridge under undue strain.

Standard bridge crossing warning….Two people AND two bikes??? Looking at the drop below I was inclined to be obedient and not put the bridge under undue strain.

The river valley was spread out below us.  It's good to be in the back country.  Makes us feel rugged.

The river valley was spread out below us. It’s good to be in the back country. Makes us feel rugged, and a bit like kings.

Laura is hands-down faster than me when it comes to down hill or flat riding, and is really good a handling her bike over loose rocks and around curves....but even she ditched it into a bush one time.  Thankfully manuka is a softer landing than spiny matagouri, and she came out with only a small bruise.  I took a spill on the way down the first pass and was duly cautious for the rest of the ride, so all in all we didn't get knocked around too badly.  That's a win for the mommies, whose bodies don't heal as fast as the kiddos anymore.

Laura is hands-down faster than me when it comes to down hill or flat riding, and is really good a handling her bike over loose rocks and around curves….but even she ditched it into a bush one time. Thankfully manuka is a softer landing than spiny matagouri, and she came out with only a small bruise. I took a spill on the way down the first pass and was duly cautious for the rest of the ride, so all in all we didn’t get knocked around too badly. That’s a win for the mommies, whose bodies don’t heal as fast as the kiddos anymore.

"Phew, finally the end of that hill!"  The hardest part about most of the hills was the loose surface, making getting any traction really tough.  In other words, we walked our bikes up these bits.

“Phew, finally the end of that hill!” The hardest part about most of the hills was the loose surface, making getting any traction really tough. In other words, we walked our bikes up these bits.  The last 7k of the track was a smooth downhill, and it was like a glorious sled ride…until we discovered that we hadn’t parked our car at the end of the track.  We shared a granola bar and got ready for a long slog up the road into the headwind….but thankfully we had only left it a couple kilometers along.  We were in Hanmer in time to enjoy a platter of deep fried nibbles and beer.  

These weekends are a chance to have an adventure, but there's much more to them than that.  I don't have a picture of the conversations we have.  We talk about child-rearing and jobs; husbands and siblings; God and science; frustrations and aspirations.  And what we learned from our last podcast episode.  In short, everything important.  

These weekends are fantastic adventure, but there’s much more to them than sport.  I don’t have a picture of the conversations we share.  We giggle and lament, philosophize and opine.  We talk about child-rearing and jobs; husbands and siblings; God and science; frustrations and aspirations.  And what we learned from our last podcast episode.  In short, everything important in life.  What can be more satisfying than that?

 

A stubborn streak

Naomi is lovely.  She really is.  Here she is admiring the floating lanterns as she biked along a lake in Hagley park.

Naomi is lovely. She really is. Here she is admiring the floating lanterns as she biked along a lake in Hagley park.

And here she is admiring yet more floating AND hanging lanterns.... We soon left the park and headed towards the library, with a stop at a cafe for a treat since mommy had forgotten the packed lunch on the kitchen counter top.

And here she is admiring yet more floating AND hanging lanterns….
We soon left the park and headed towards the library, with a stop at a cafe for a treat since mommy had forgotten the packed lunch on the kitchen counter top.  She sat at the counter and ate her half of the ginger slice with relish.

Then she stopped.  I don't know why.  Maybe she was tired?  Maybe she was just sick of me telling her to come along and wanted to assert her own decision-making ability.  I could SEE the library ahead, for crying out loud. I can't carry both her and her bike, so, needless to say, we both stopped.  For 30 minutes we stopped.  I sat down.  She pulled down her brows.  I weathered the concerned looks of well meaning passers by.  She cried.  I didn't cry (or yell)...a small victory for motherhood.  I observed a rich lady do an abominable job parking her fancy car.  Naomi stuck out her bottom lip.  I read national geographic on my phone.  Thank goodness for downloadable media!  Finally she moved again.

Then she stopped. I don’t know why. Maybe she was tired? Maybe she was just sick of me telling her to come along and wanted to assert her own decision-making ability. 
I can’t carry both her and her bike, so, needless to say, we both stopped. For 30 minutes we stopped. I could SEE the library ahead, for crying out loud.
I sat down. She pulled down her eyebrows. I weathered the concerned looks of well meaning passers by. She cried. I didn’t cry (or yell)…a small victory for motherhood. I observed a rich lady do an abominable job parking her fancy car. Naomi stuck out her bottom lip. I read national geographic on my phone. Thank goodness for downloadable media! Finally she moved again.  I honestly don’t remember why.

We got this cute little email from Naomi’s teacher at preschool today:

“Over the past couple of weeks I have noticed Naomi’s strong independence at undertaking activities by herself especially ones that challenge her.  She doesn’t like to accept adult assistance and at times this has hindered her learning.”

“So I am focusing on this area of encouraging Naomi to accept help when needed and wondered what you thoughts were.”

Ha!  Good luck to you!  Those are my thoughts.

Dare I ask what your thoughts are?