Self-segregation

The bell rings at 9:45.  We all troop into the break room for "smoko," or morning tea.  The bell rings again at 10:00, and we tip the dregs out of our tea cups and troop back to work.  It's a factory.  A plant factory.  The surprising part is that I like it.

The bell rings at 9:45. We all troop into the break room for “smoko,” or morning tea. The bell rings again at 10:00, and we tip the dregs out of our tea cups and troop back to work. It’s a factory. A plant factory. The surprising part is that I like it.

We dribble into the smoko room, line up for the microwave, then jostle for a seat in sea of grungy neon-yellow high viz.  We segregate as if were in Atlanta in the 1940s.  Kiwis at the two middle tables, Chileans in a chattery bunch by the windows, with the middle-aged kiwi women perching precariously to the ends of the tables they used to rule.  The last table is for the Asian rift raft—a few Filipinos, Chinese, Malasians, and a lone Indian.  The rain patters on the outdoor tables, crowding the break room with even the die-hard patio sitters, me among them.

I take a seat at the cross-roads, between the generously proportioned kiwi women with bleached hair and make-up and the boisterous South Americans.  My Spanish isn’t good enough to follow the rapid conversation to my right, laced with slang.  I’m across from an icy green-eyed Chilean queen, who has never given me more than a disdainful glance, though she shares sandwiches and noisy banter across the table with her brethren.  I’m not part of the comradery, but I wish I was.  I get why the crew self-segregates—it sucks to be the misfit, not sure where it’s safe to make eye contact, awkward in silence but likewise awkward in accented conversation.

“They sound like a bunch of chimpanzees,” the plump kiwi on my left grouches under her breath, rolling her eyes.

I hesitate for a half second, then hazard an opinion.  “You know, I wish I was from a warm colourful culture like theirs, where you sing when you’re happy—wouldn’t that be fun!  I’m from a cold reserved culture like your own.” There, I’d said it.

“They’re so noisy!”  Mrs. Kiwi defends her position.  “We have the radio and the noise of the transplanting machines all day long.  At lunch you just want a break!”

“Yeah, my kiddo house is a noisy too,” I sympathize.  I’ve already made my point, now it’s time to soften it.  Embracing cultural differences doesn’t come naturally to anyone, least of all New Zealanders.  It’s fascinating how uncomfortable it is to sit isolated among a sea of clicky groups.  It’s discouraging to see, but I get why people choose the same seats day after day, the same familiar companions.  “Us versus Them” seems to be irrevocably entrenched into our human nature.

Bringing home the bacon

"Be home by 6." The text came on Sunday, a day earlier than expected. The weather hadn't been bad, so the hunt must have been successful. Wildly so. Why else would they abandon the hills early? Still, when Jeremiah said they had two deer, five goats and a PIG, I thought he must be pulling my leg. They'd only been out one night. Turns out they were in dead earnest, and I guess that's why Jeremiah works so hard to get a permit from DOC to hunt the Molesworth Station near Hanmer Springs. Milo wanted to know why they hadn't stopped on the way home and caught some fish....nothing like keeping the expectations high. (To the uninitiated, those hanging bags contain meat, still bone-in, but removed from the main part of the animal.)

“Be home by 6.” The text came on Sunday, a day earlier than expected. The weather hadn’t been bad, so the hunt must have been successful. Wildly so. Why else would they abandon the hills early?
Still, when Jeremiah said they had two deer, five goats and a PIG, I thought he must be pulling my leg. They’d only been out one night.  And they hadn’t been hunting for pigs.
Turns out they were in dead earnest, and I guess that’s why Jeremiah works so hard to get a permit from DOC to hunt the Molesworth Station near Hanmer Springs–it must be crawling with animals.  Or, as Jeremiah would say, it’s all hunter skill.  
Milo wanted to know why they hadn’t stopped on the way home and caught some fish….nothing like keeping the expectations high.
(To the uninitiated, those hanging bags contain meat, some still bone-in, but removed from the main part of the animal.)

Here's the requisite "scene of slaughter" photo.  The hills look so barren, it's amazing that they support so many animals.

Here’s the requisite “scene of slaughter” photo. The hills look so barren, it’s amazing that they support so many animals.  Apparently the goats it breeds aren’t too bright though.  “Hey, what’s wrong with Bill?” they must wonder, as their companions drop around them.

I guess "normal" is what a kid gets used to. Naomi is feeling the pig's ear. Milo had been looking up its nose a moment before. Mark, Jeremiah's hunting buddy, felt really awkward carrying the skinned carcass though the courtyard of his apartment complex....it wasn't a "normal" sight for those kids.

I guess “normal” is what a kid gets used to. Naomi is feeling the pig’s ear. Milo had been looking up its nose a moment before. Mark, Jeremiah’s hunting buddy, felt really awkward carrying the skinned carcass though the courtyard of his apartment complex….it wasn’t a “normal” sight for those kids.

This is what we get up to when Jeremiah's out hunting--serious chocolate consumption at She Chocolate in Governor's Bay.

This is what we get up to when Jeremiah’s out hunting–serious chocolate consumption at She Chocolate in Governor’s Bay.  “Are your kids allowed to play with chocolate?” the waitress asked.  “Uh, sure,” we naively replied.  She brought out 5 little folded packets of liquid chocolate and 5 sheets of bakers paper which caught the breeze delightfully, flinging chocolate onto noses and wrists.  “They can draw with the chocolate, and it’ll harden,” she said, demonstrating a neat daisy pattern.  Turns out it hardens excruciatingly slowly on a warm sunny day, and that it makes magnificent finger and face paint too.

Dead fish fun

There are some idyllic bays tucked into notches around the Banks Peninsula.  Winter is loosening its grip, so couple weeks ago we stayed at the Okains Bay campground, with tent sites tucked under those big pine trees just behind the beach.

There are some idyllic bays tucked into notches around the Banks Peninsula. Winter is loosening its grip, so couple weeks ago we stayed at the Okains Bay campground, with tent sites tucked under those big pine trees just behind the beach.

Our friends Emma and Ian plus their three kids joined us for Saturday.  If Sand + Water = Kid Happiness, then fresh Mussels + Beer = Adult Happiness.

Our friends Emma and Ian plus their three kids joined us for Saturday. If Sand + Water = Kid Happiness, then fresh Mussels + Beer = Adult Happiness.

Sand+Water+Dead Fish=Intense Happiness.  We found this kahawai fish in one of the tidal pools, recently dead for no apparent reason.  We were tempted to try eating it....but declined when we contemplated the various pathogens that might cause a fish to die at sea (actually, we have no idea about the pathogens, just aware that what we don't know fills volumes).  Then we saw a dolphin in the bay, and wondered if it got whacked by the dolphin, then lost in the waves.  The diggers and trucks were immediately abandoned by the children.  The fish was smacked, whacked, buried, disinterred, swung in graceful arcs, dropped from the overhanging rocks, and eventually detailed and descaled.  Talk about cheap amusement.

Sand+Water+Dead Fish=Intense Happiness. We found this kahawai fish in one of the tidal pools, recently dead for no apparent reason. We were tempted to try eating it….but declined when we contemplated the various pathogens that might cause a fish to die at sea (actually, we have no idea about the pathogens, just aware that what we don’t know fills volumes). Then we saw a dolphin in the bay, and wondered if it got whacked by the dolphin, then lost in the waves. The diggers and trucks were immediately abandoned by the children. The fish was smacked, whacked, buried, disinterred, swung in graceful arcs, dropped from the overhanging rocks, and eventually detailed and descaled. Talk about cheap amusement.

You couldn't tell Naomi that the rocks were too high for her--her chubby little fingers found the hand holds and her toes scrabbled up behind.

You couldn’t tell Naomi that the rocks were too high for her–her chubby little fingers found the hand holds and her toes scrabbled up behind.

Aw, mommy-baby photo op.

Aw, mommy-baby photo op.

The sand at Okain's Bay is perfect for sculpting, smooth and wet and dense, and strong enough for a seat.

The sand at Okain’s Bay is perfect for sculpting, smooth and wet and dense, and strong enough for a seat.  

Some people are mesmerized by waves, languidly watching them for hours.  I personally don't find them so calming, but I did stop to admire the sun's glare on the overlapping edges as they chuckled in to shore.  I wonder if the waves feel a bit redundant, always doing and re-doing the same rote task, like endlessly tidying the sheets of sand only to have critters muck them up again with foot prints.

Some people are mesmerized by waves, languidly watching them for hours. I personally don’t find them so calming, but I did stop to admire the sun’s glare on the overlapping edges as they chuckled in to shore. I wonder if the waves feel a bit redundant, always doing and re-doing the same rote task, like endlessly tidying the sheets of sand only to have critters muck them up again with foot prints.

They’re game

Warning, the following video is too long: only grandparents need endure it.  Everyone else might want to fast-forward a bit.

I love that Naomi is game.  She’s strong and capable and coordinated (well, for a 2 year old).  She’s not afraid to give anything a go.  She grins and puts her wheel up to the edge of the slope, wings down with a frightful front tire shimmy, then goes back up to try the next highest one.  Maybe it’s the advantage of the second born–she assumes anything Milo does, she can do too.  And she’s nearly always right.

Milo is DETERMINED.  This massive box of diapers was delivered to our front door a couple weeks ago, when I was sick and decidedly low energy.  "I'll just leave it there for daddy to deal with," I told Milo, and plopped down on the grass to rest.  He had other plans.  He pushed the box down a flight of concrete stairs and then rolled it end-over-end back up the driveway.  Take a look at that set jaw.

Milo is DETERMINED. This massive box of diapers was delivered to our front door a couple weeks ago, when I was sick and decidedly low energy. “I’ll just leave it there for daddy to deal with,” I told Milo, and plopped down on the grass to rest. He had other plans. He pushed the box down a flight of concrete stairs and then rolled it end-over-end back up the driveway. Take a look at that set jaw.

Naomi is DELIGHTED.  She sure thought this playground merry-go-round was fun!  I kept waiting for her to turn green, but she must have a stronger stomach than I.  Even Milo decided to be the driver after a while, but Naomi just kept spinning.

Naomi is DELIGHTED. She sure thought this playground merry-go-round was fun! I kept waiting for her to turn green, but she must have a stronger stomach than I. Even Milo decided to be the driver after a while, but Naomi just kept spinning.

Sylvia Tops

Nina Valley and Sylvia Tops. The hike looked pretty good as described in South Island Weekend Tramps. Most solo weekend tramps mean backtracking back to the car, but this one would be a loop. On the outward leg I'd following a "route" over the Sylvia tops, stay at a tiny hut on the saddle, and walk back out the valley the next day.

Nina Valley and Sylvia Tops. The hike looked pretty good as described in South Island Weekend Tramps. Most solo weekend tramps mean backtracking back to the car, but this one would be a loop. On the outward leg I’d following a “route” over the Sylvia tops, stay at a tiny hut on the saddle, and walk back out the Nina valley the next day.  And I’d avoid the Doubtful valley.  Not that I’ve been there or heard bad tales, but the name is a bit ominous.

I looked carefully along the trail for any sign of a side path. It's not a DOC track, so I doubted there would be a sign. At a deer trail I cut over to the river flats and got a good look at the beech-cloaked ridge I had determined to climb.

I looked carefully along the trail for any sign of a side path. It’s not a DOC track, so I doubted there would be a sign. At a deer trail I cut over to the river flats and got a good look at the beech-cloaked ridge I had determined to climb.

The river ford was tame (dry undies!), but COLD. I wonder how many hours ago that water was snow.

The river ford was tame (dry undies!), but COLD. I wonder how many hours ago that water was snow.

I spent the next two hours looking at moss and beech leaves and scratchy trunks up close. At first I appreciated the lush greenery. Then I remembered that I don't like bush whacking (or "bush bashing" as they call it here). At certain moments the branches seem malevolent, snatching at my hair and snagging my ice axe. I would find a deer trail only to loose it again. I guess deer aren't stupid enough to climb straight up hill.

I spent the next two hours looking at moss and beech leaves and scratchy trunks up close. At first I appreciated the lush greenery. Then I remembered that I don’t like bush whacking (or “bush bashing” as they call it here). At certain moments the branches seem malevolent, snatching at my hair and snagging my ice axe. I would find a deer trail only to loose it again. I guess deer aren’t stupid enough to climb straight up hill, like humans.  There are distinct advantages to hiking alone–when the going gets tough, there’s no one else to worry about, and I don’t have to apologize about the non-trail or wonder if I should have been on the next ridge over.  Just keep going up.  

Bah, good riddance to that thick forest, I'm finally out in the thin lichen-clad alpine beeches.

Bah, good riddance to that thick forest, I’m finally out in the thin lichen-clad alpine beeches.

I chose my lunch spot carefully, rearranged my tattered hair, and settled down in the sun with a view.

I chose my lunch spot carefully, rearranged my tattered hair, and settled down in the sun with a view.  I don’t know why the beech forest ends so suddenly on the open tops, but I’m thankful.

And enjoyed a restorative cup of tea!

I enjoyed a restorative cup of tea!

Here, now, is my terrain for the rest of the day.  The patches of snow weren't ice-axe-and-crampon worthy, but it was comforting to think that the extra gear had added to my weight training.  I followed the tops of the hills around the basin, stopping frequently for snacks.  There were no footprints in the snow; it must have been a while since anyway was up here.  It's a good feeling.  Who doesn't want to be strong and capable and independent?  And for a brief moment completely free of responsibility for the welfare of others.  My tired thighs reminded me that I'm not a bionic human, and the last decent climb on the map before heading down to the saddle kept me from getting too cocky.

Here, now, is my terrain for the rest of the day. The patches of snow weren’t ice-axe-and-crampon worthy, but it was comforting to think that the extra gear had added to my weight training. I followed the tops of the hills around the basin, stopping frequently for snacks. There were no footprints in the snow; it must have been a while since anyway was up here. It’s a good feeling. Who doesn’t want to be strong and capable and independent? And for a brief moment completely free of responsibility for the welfare of others. My tired thighs reminded me that I’m not a bionic human, and the last decent climb on the map before heading down to the saddle kept me from getting too cocky.

These tops aren't actually grassy, they're skinned in a bewildering array of miniature plants.  I suspect they belong to familiar plant families, but their alpine adaptations make them unrecognizable (to me).

These tops aren’t actually grassy, they’re skinned in a bewildering array of miniature plants. I suspect they belong to familiar plant families, but their alpine adaptations make them unrecognizable (to me).

There was no trail over the tops, and I kept hoping that I wasn't killing these tough little specimens with my boots.  They're tough to wind and snow and sun, but I bet they aren't durable to foot traffic.  Lots of reds in the foliage mix.  Maybe they're anthocyanins protecting leaves from sun damage?

There was no trail over the tops, and I kept hoping that I wasn’t killing these tough little specimens with my boots. They’re tough to wind and snow and sun, but I bet they aren’t durable to foot traffic. Lots of reds in the foliage mix. Maybe they’re anthocyanins protecting leaves from sun damage?

I guess the bare exposed rocks are cheap real estate, so someone is going to live there.  Lichens are super impressive!

I guess the bare exposed rocks are cheap real estate, so someone is going to live there. Lichens are super impressive!

Doesn't that water look COLD?  I was conserving leg energy so I didn't stop to paddle...

Doesn’t that water look COLD? I was conserving leg energy so I didn’t stop to paddle…

If you squint you might just be able to see the tiny hut in the saddle.  DOC calls it a "bivouac;" everyone else calls it a "biv" (three syllable words are too long for Kiwis).  That's where I planned to stay the night.

If you squint you might just be able to see the tiny hut in the saddle. DOC calls it a “bivouac;” everyone else calls it a “biv” (three syllable words are too long for Kiwis). That’s where I planned to stay the night.

I was thinking about cooking an early dinner and settling down with the latest edition of National Geographic on my phone when I noticed the pair of boots outside the door.  Two pairs, to be precise.  It's a two-bunk hut.  Darn.

I was thinking about cooking an early dinner and settling down with the latest edition of National Geographic when I noticed the pair of boots outside the door. Two pairs, to be precise. It’s a two-bunk hut. Darn.  

Good thing Nina hut is only 2 more hours down the valley (left in the photo; Doubtful valley is to the right).  DOWN, is the operative term at this stage in the day.  If I was facing a two hour up-hill slog, I wouldn't have been so cheerful.  I cooked dinner while exchanging pleasantries with the other hikers (hunters), then set off down to Nina hut, wondering if I'd be treated to my first-ever floor berth if the sleeping bunks were all taken.

Good thing Nina hut is only 2 more hours down the valley (left in the photo; Doubtful valley is to the right). DOWN, is the operative term at this stage in the day. If I was facing a two hour up-hill slog, I wouldn’t have been so cheerful. I cooked dinner while exchanging pleasantries with the other hikers (hunters), then set off down to Nina hut, wondering if I’d be treated to my first-ever floor berth if the sleeping bunks were all taken.

My dad would have loved this bit of the hike.  It's very green, the brook is noisy and cheerful, and the moss is luxuriant.

My dad would have loved this bit of the hike. It’s very green, the brook is noisy and cheerful, and the moss is luxuriant.

There was one space left in the 10-bunk Nina hut, to my relief, and I spent a cheerful evening in the company of some remarkably cordial teenage boys and their dads.  I didn't know 15 year old males did anything but grunt, but these guys pleasantly surprised me with their friendly conversation.  They even asked me if I was a "professional" tramper.  Ha!  What flattery!  Nope, I am a foreigner, but I'm just a mom out for the weekend.

There was one space left in the 10-bunk Nina hut, to my relief, and I spent a cheerful evening in the company of some remarkably cordial teenage boys and their dads. I didn’t know 15 year old males did anything but grunt, but these guys pleasantly surprised me with their friendly conversation. They even asked me if I was a “professional” tramper. Ha! What flattery! Nope, I am a foreigner, but I’m just a mom out for the weekend.

The next morning I puttered around taking pictures of mosses (?)

The next morning I puttered around taking pictures of mosses (?)

....and grass.....I had two cups of tea and set out late after having done a whole sudoku in one sitting.

….and grass…..I had two cups of tea and set out late after having done a whole sudoku in one sitting.

On the way out I passed several tui birds.  They have a magnificent vocabulary for a bird, from rude squawks to flutey sequences that sound quite exotic.  I didn't hear anyone answer this guy, I think he was just enjoying his own voice.

On the way out I passed several tui birds. They have a magnificent vocabulary for a bird, from rude squawks to flutey sequences that sound quite exotic. I didn’t hear anyone answer this guy, I think he was just enjoying his own voice.

Now, if my "bush bash" had been through open woods like these, I wouldn't have had anything to complain about. It's amazing how much sun actually comes through in the beech forest.

Now, if my “bush bash” had been through open woods like these, I wouldn’t have had anything to complain about. It’s amazing how much sun actually comes through in the beech forest.

A forest carpet fit for a king....or perhaps an Ent.  Goodbye for now mountains.  The next restorative dose of wilderness is in November.

A forest carpet fit for a king….or perhaps an Ent. Goodbye for now mountains. The next restorative dose of wilderness is in November.

Happy Birthday Naomi!

Only old people say "Time flies," right? Two years ago I was mightily pregnant, cumbersome, and ready to be done with it. Then my baby girl emerged and I was smitten. I still am. Jeremiah decorated Naomi's chair with balloons and streamers. I woke her up early this morning so we could watch her delight. She kept bopping the balloons and somewhat inaccurately naming their colors, while distractedly spooning up her wheat bix.

Only old people say “Time flies,” right?
Two years ago I was mightily pregnant, cumbersome, and ready to be done with it. Then my baby girl emerged and I was smitten. I still am.
Jeremiah decorated Naomi’s chair with balloons and streamers. I woke her up early this morning so we could watch her delight. She kept bopping the balloons and somewhat inaccurately naming their colors, while distractedly spooning up her wheat bix.

My beautiful baby! Every night I sing her the old Sesame Street song, "You're my beautiful baby." It starts: "You got baby eyes and baby toes, baby face and a baby nose, whoohoohoooho, you're my baby." It's a love song to a baby, and I hope she never grows out of it.

My beautiful baby!
Every night I sing her the old Sesame Street song, “You’re my beautiful baby.” It starts: “You got baby eyes and baby toes, baby face and a baby nose, whoohoohoooho, you’re my baby.” It’s a love song to a baby, and I hope she never grows out of it.

Justine, who takes care of Naomi while I'm working, gave her a tea set. She (stereotypical girl) enjoys setting up the cups and saucers, serving pretend tea to her visitors....and Milo (stereotypical boy) butts in and scatters the set. I didn't used to think the boy/girl stereotypes were real for littlies like these, but now I'm not so sure.

Justine, who takes care of Naomi while I’m working, gave her a tea set. She (stereotypical girl) enjoys setting up the cups and saucers, serving pretend tea to her visitors….and Milo (stereotypical boy) butts in and scatters the set. I didn’t used to think the boy/girl stereotypes were real for littlies like these, but now I’m not so sure.

She has been to enough birthday parties that she knew just what to do with the candles.

She has been to enough birthday parties that she knew just what to do with the candles.

"What kind of cake do you think Naomi would like, Milo?" "Carrot cake with marshmallows!" Well, we skipped the marshmallows but did cream cheese frosting on the carrot cake. Yum!

“What kind of cake do you think Naomi would like, Milo?”
“Carrot cake with marshmallows!”
Well, we skipped the marshmallows but did cream cheese frosting on the carrot cake. Yum!

Hagley in Spring

It's finally spring, and it seems to have finally warmed up.  My sincerest condolences to our northern hemisphere family and friends who are entering the Dark Days of Winter just as we're chortling about spring.  You'll get your own cackles come June, when we're shivering and you're beginning to tan.   We got up to Christchurch's central park (Hagley) one day last week to oogle the blossoms.  Milo stopped to admire this flower bed--"You do want to take a picture, don't you Mom?"  Of course I do.  Kudos to the gardener who dreamed up the kaleidoscope combination of red polyanthus, pink bellis, orange poppies, yellow wall flower, and bright blue forget-me-nots.

It’s finally spring, and it seems to have finally warmed up. My sincerest condolences to our northern hemisphere family and friends who are entering the Dark Days of Winter just as we’re chortling about spring. You’ll get your own cackles come June, when we’re shivering and you’re beginning to tan.
We got up to Christchurch’s central park (Hagley) one day last week to oogle the blossoms. Milo stopped to admire this flower bed–“You do want to take a picture, don’t you Mom?” Of course I do. Kudos to the gardener who dreamed up the kaleidoscope combination of red polyanthus, pink bellis, orange poppies, yellow wall flower, and bright blue forget-me-nots.

We zipped through the extensive daffodil plantings under the tall oaks and petted the furry ranunculus blossoms in the alpine garden before Milo announced the inevitable: "Mom, I'm hungry!"  Of course you are.  Never mind that breakfast was a scant hour ago.  The feeding doesn't seem to parse out into simple meals, but instead morphs into a continuous bonanza of cheese, grapes, peanutbutter-and-jelly, and banana.  You'd think they'd get tired of the old stand-bys, but they don't seem to.  After our food we wandered over to this climbable magnolia to put it through its paces.

We zipped through the extensive daffodil plantings under the tall oaks and petted the furry ranunculus blossoms in the alpine garden before Milo announced the inevitable: “Mom, I’m hungry!” Of course you are. Never mind that breakfast was a scant hour ago. The feeding doesn’t seem to parse out into simple meals, but instead morphs into a continuous bonanza of cheese, grapes, peanutbutter-and-jelly, and banana. You’d think they’d get tired of the old stand-bys, but they don’t seem to. After our food we wandered over to this climbable magnolia to put it through its paces.

Aptly named "Kaka beak," these red flowers are a New Zealand special.  I couldn't drum up much interest in these pendulous beauties among the little people, unfortunately.

Aptly named “Kaka beak,” these red flowers are a New Zealand special. I couldn’t drum up much interest in these pendulous beauties among the little people, unfortunately.

A log full of bugs was much more interesting.  I get it.  I find the quick sunlight exposure and the frantic scuttle for the safety of the dark a pretty good show myself.

A log full of bugs was much more interesting. I get it. I find the quick sunlight exposure and the frantic scuttle for the safety of the dark a pretty good show myself.

Naomi, true to her sweet nurturing nature, was most interested in the "babies."  I'm not sure how exactly she logic-ed the worm-like beetle larvae as cute, but she pointed enthusiastically as they made their escape. "BayBies!"

Naomi, true to her sweet nurturing nature, was most interested in the “babies.” I’m not sure how exactly she logic-ed the worm-like beetle larvae as cute, but she pointed enthusiastically as they made their escape. “BayBies!”

Arboria kaleidoscope

Last weekend we had the Summerfield girls with us while their parents enjoyed a quiet night away for their anniversary.  This is the family who had our two while we were away hiking for our anniversary.  We often trade kids for shorter times too–the kids are generally compatible and we’ve become each other’s surrogate family support network, as they are English and all their free childcare options are also overseas.

Sunday morning we took the whole clan to the "Arboria," an inflatable walk-through art exhibit that uses different colors and thicknesses of plastic + sunlight to generate amazing displays of colors and patterns inside.  It's in Christchurch's Cathedral square, where 5 years after the quakes the cathedral still stands in limbo, open to the elements and a prime pigeon roost.  But see that crane int he background?  LOTS of new building going on as well.

Sunday morning we took the whole clan to the “Arboria,” an inflatable walk-through art exhibit that uses different colors and thicknesses of plastic + sunlight to generate amazing displays of colors and patterns inside. It’s in Christchurch’s Cathedral square, where 5 years after the quakes the cathedral still stands in limbo, open to the elements and a prime pigeon roost. But see that crane int he background? LOTS of new building going on as well.

We waited in a surprisingly long line to get in, but the kids, incredibly, did well.  I had packed sufficient food….barely.  As I stood in line, 30 little fingers reached up, insinuating themselves into the container of grapes.  “More?”  “More?”  their owners insist, quietly.  Inexorably.  This must be how mama birds feel, always in demand; not demand for one’s persona, but for services rendered.  NOW.

Milo enters a different world....

We did, eventually, make it to the front of the line.  We went through an air lock, and Milo enters a different world….

It looks a little sinister in this view, especially with Jeremiah's menacing figure guarding the doorway.

It looks a little sinister in this view, especially with Jeremiah’s menacing figure guarding the doorway.  Actually, that wasn’t a doorway, just a colored panel that was hot from the sun hitting it, and Jeremiah’s soaking up the warmth.  

But this view looks like a fairy palace, hobbit-style with the round passageways.

But this view looks like a fairy palace, hobbit-style with the round passageways.

Amazing, the crew stayed still long enough to capture a non-blurry photo.

Amazing, the crew stayed still long enough to capture a non-blurry photo.  Milo, Chloe, Amelie, and Ella.

The lacy shadow on the roof is from the chalice sculpture that stands outside in Cathedral Square.

The lacy shadow on the roof is cast by the chalice sculpture that stands outside in Cathedral Square.

gazing....

gazing….

gaping....

gaping….

...at the colorful kaleidoscope of patterns.

…at the mesmerizing kaleidoscope of patterns.

My kind of pet

You pass the lamp post, then you enter the land of Spare Oom. That's where the Eels live. Though not the shrieking variety...

You pass the lamp post, then you enter the land of Spare Oom. That’s where the Eels live. Though not the shrieking variety…

We have at least 3 resident eels in the stream that flows in front of the new house. They're my kind of pets--feed them when you want to, don't when you don't want to, and no further parental responsibilities. I guess they may lack a little in the Warm and Fuzzy department. What do eels eat, you may ask? Meat. So far we've tried salami and tahr, and they liked both.

We thought we had three eels living in our front stream.  A big one, a medium one, and a little one (quickly dubbed “daddy,” “mommy” and “baby” by our friends, a family of 3 girls).  That’s what we thought until we brought the ham out…now we know there are actually more than we can count.  We’ve tried them on salami and tahr, but ham seems to be the favorite so far.  Eels are my kind of pets–feed them when you want to, don’t when you don’t want to, and no further ownership duties. I guess they may lack a little in the Warm and Fuzzy department….

That black slithery shadow is one of the larger eels.  I looked up their life cycles, and they're the reverse of salmon.  Adults live in fresh water streams for their whole long lives (like 50+ years), then when they're ready to mate they go back to the ocean, to some deep trench near Tonga (no one really knows), where they lay their eggs.  Their tiny babies drift back to the New Zealand coast on ocean currents, and some small percentage makes it into the streams to grow to a size that can terrorize ducklings.  Doesn't make you want to dabble your toes in our stream, now does it?

That black slithery shadow is one of the larger eels. I looked up their life cycles, and they’re the reverse of salmon. Adults live in fresh water streams for their whole long lives (like 50+ years), then when they’re ready to mate they go back to the ocean, to some deep trench near Tonga (no one really knows), where they lay their eggs. Their tiny babies drift back to the New Zealand coast on ocean currents, and some small percentage makes it into the streams to grow to a size that can terrorize ducklings. Doesn’t make you want to dabble your toes in our stream, now does it?

Shifting

For the last 3 years we’ve lived at 70 Checketts Ave in Halswell.  It’s a modest little house which has the advantage of being painted a cheerful yellow with red window sills when we were house hunting in a drab cold August three years ago.  It also has many disadvantages.  Windows don’t keep the outside air OUT (read that as cold).  The kitchen is small and there’s no dining room, so we eat tightly wedged around the table in the kitchen (read that as no dinner parties).  The views from the windows show brown fence with gray neighbor’s roof on one side, and brown fence with brown neighbor’s roof on the other side.  Here’s a photo tour of the place.

 

Milo's room

Milo’s room

Naomi's room

Naomi’s room

Parents' room

Parents’ room

Front hallway (here's where Milo gets a piece of the action)

Front hallway (here’s where Milo gets a piece of the action)

Living room

Living room

Kitchen

Kitchen

Not bad.  The house is “tidy,” as they say (that doesn’t refer to my housekeeping rigor, and there are plenty of houses for rent which are NOT tidy).

But we decided that it could be improved upon, so a week ago we moved, or “shifted” as they say here.  I always think a “shift” sells it short, sounding more minor than a “move,” but never mind.

And since I’m sure no one is interested in a whingey tirade about hours spent washing smudgy marks off creamy yellow walls or wiping endless crumbs from drawers, I have nothing else to say about “shifting.”  Except that it’s accomplished.  Good riddance.

It's funny what accumulates in your pockets during a move. American quarters have no value here. That button goes to Milo's jacket, but I'll probably never get around to sewing it back on. It's unlikely I'll need that irrigation nozzle. And I haven't seen the toy man that flipper fits on for weeks.

It’s funny what accumulates in your pockets during a move. American quarters have no value here. That button goes to Milo’s jacket, but I’ll probably never get around to sewing it back on. It’s unlikely I’ll need that irrigation nozzle. And I haven’t seen the toy man that flipper fits on for weeks.  Still couldn’t throw any of it away.

We like the new place quite a bit, though we’re still only renting.

And within the first week of living here, I happened upon a revelation:  Happiness in life is a whole lot about fulfilled expectations.

Of course, like most of my lessons, I learned this one the hard way.  Somehow in my tricky subconscious mind I had believed that if I gave Milo a bigger more interesting house and yard, he’d take himself off and enjoy them, INDEPENDENTLY of my input = Molly would have more quiet time to do her own things = happier Molly.

All you sage older mothers must be busting a gut right about now.  Of course that didn’t work.  The first Tuesday (non-work day) we were in the new house was rainy, and after spending a discombobulated morning indoors with a dozen preschoolers and mums at Playcentre, I was desperately looking forward to a little quiet time to do some unpacking tasks with the company of my own rambling thoughts.  Milo doesn’t nap anymore, but his ornery behavior and heavy eyes gave me high hopes that he’d succumb to the drowsy rainy weather and take his siesta.  Or go play with his legos quietly. Or draw.  Or do anything that was out of my hair.

Not to be.  He dogged my every move, whining, wanting to help but then not following instructions, and generally being a normal 4 year old….except that since I had Expected him to be transformed, I was affronted all over again at his habits.  Some people have children that take themselves off and get absorbed into intricate imaginary worlds for hours on end, but not me.

At the end of the afternoon Naomi awoke from her nap and they both wanted to go outside and stamp in the puddles.  They came back 20 minutes later soggy, cold, and happy.

At the end of the afternoon Naomi awoke from her nap and they both wanted to go outside and stamp in the puddles. They came back 20 minutes later soggy, cold, and happy.

On my way to work the next morning grizzling with a grouchy hangover from a lousy day yesterday, I had the revelation.  Happiness is all about fulfilled expectations.  The principle works with houses, with relationships, with salaries.  I recalled an old Philip Baley song that goes:

We say the grass
Is always greener
The sky’s forever blue

We all know there’s
Something better
There for us to do

We feel we get over
We believe we have it made
All problems will be solved

If we can only find a way
To the other side

You can spend your whole life wanting more.  Managing one’s own expectations isn’t easy, but it’s probably a good discipline.  Ask me in a year how it’s going.

Right, philosophical ramble over for the day.  Here’s a tour of the new house:

This is the primary reason we moved to the new house. Milo spent 30 minutes whacking these logs, admiring the purple inner bark as he was pulverizing it. He would really go to town with a hatchet, but I hate to think what else would surely get chopped.

This is the primary reason we moved to the new house. Milo spent 30 minutes whacking these logs, admiring the purple inner bark as he was pulverizing it. He would really go to town with a hatchet, but I hate to think what else would surely get chopped.